Happy Valentine’s Day

I’ve never researched the beginnings of Valentines Day, and I feel no need to start now. We know we celebrate it out of love and affection for those that are special to us with cards, roses, chocolates, and such. But do romantic Valentine’s ‘Come at Much Too High a Cost‘?

Gifting for me hasn’t always been out of the ‘romantic‘ type of love. More often than not, it’s been simply because I care enough for the individual that I want them to feel special. It’s something I learned in kindergarten as we’d pass out Valentines Cards to all our classmates.

Yet on several occasions, a few years back, I sent roses to someone very dear to me as well. Mainly as a sign of gratitude for her kindness and caring gestures through the years. Deep inside my soul, however, there were hopes of something more between us in the future.

From those gestures, I received this reminder from 1-800-flowers, whom I ordered them from. It brought me to pause as the recipient and I are no longer speaking, and I pondered what she was thinking after receiving them.

Seeing the large print ‘ROMANCE GUARANTEED,’ I, also, wondered how many of you believed it. Are you selling yourself short for a dozen or two roses by offering a romantic interlude for them? Or does the person feel obligated to give them in hopes of being romantically involved with you?

So, I ran the poll not knowing if I’d write about it or not. And as you can tell, I have. And by the way, in transparency, I was expecting NO romance when I sent mine as she lives over a thousand miles away and my respect for her was and still is greater than a romp in the hay. All I wanted was to be closer. Yet two Valentines later, I am ‘Defying Gravity‘ as I have become the ‘Wicked‘ one in her eyes.

After viewing the results, I tried to analyze the respondents’ replies that I personally know. How well do I really know them, I asked myself while remembering our conversations together and any other interactions we may have had. And now that I’ve had time to think them through, the ones I know that voted ‘YES,’ I’m only surprised by two of them. While the majority that voted ‘NO’ my instincts were right in line with their beliefs.

One shouldn’t have to give a thing for romance if the love is there. Nor should anyone expect anything in return, as love is the greatest gift humans can offer one another.

I’m not saying giving roses or gifts is wrong because it does feel equally satisfying giving, as well as receiving. I know this firsthand. Just don’t make it an expectation that can get someone’s feelings for you crossed and could cause the end of a great friendship. I know that all too well, too.

It has taken me hundreds of sleepless nights to accept that the ‘Wicked‘ in me is actually ‘Good.’ In the mist of them all, a longtime friendship grew stronger. With her compassion and understanding over our decade’s long connection, I’ve asked Tara Edwards, to ‘Be My Valentine‘ this year.

Without hesitation, Tara said ‘YES.’

Happy Valentine’s Day, Tara❣️

Love you forever and beyond my friend❣️

Proof ‘ROMANCE‘ doesn’t need to exist for two souls that love one another to become each other’s Valentine. Only you can judge if your love ‘Comes at Much Too High a Cost‘ for it. Make your choices wisely because you don’t want to lose someone who is capable of ‘Defying Gravity‘ while willing to be in your life through all its ups and downs, as we’re irreplaceable.

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