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With Hypnotherapist Jodika McKinley<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I knew I was about to hear revealing truths after hypnotherapist and love & relationship coach, Jodika McKinley<\/strong> <\/a>agreed to an interview on ‘Why do we keep attracting people that hurt us’<\/em><\/strong>. The therapist holds no punches. I’ve learned this through our near yearlong therapy, collaboration and friendship talks and video chats.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Her directness is what I love most, and I’ve have told her as much on several occasions. She doesn’t mince her words for your feelings. Rather she tells it to you the very way you’re thinking it but afraid to say or show it. How can she do this you ask? Because you’re talking about something that’s happened to her, and She Knows<\/em><\/strong> the feelings involved.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So, without further ado let’s get on with my second interview for Mental Health Awareness Month<\/em><\/strong>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Jodika McKinley: Hypnotherapist <\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Why Do We Keep Attracting People that Hurt Us?<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had been reflecting on my past relationships. I hoped to understand whom I am attracting, whom I am drawn to, and why. Soul searching has become a norm, so any future loss won’t turn into all out grief. That is, if I ever pursue another relationship. Clearly, I’m not talking about dating. I’m talking about serious relationships where there is substance between us or the possibility of something more.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

My last two such relationships mirrored one another not only in looks but personalities, goals and family structure. Politically and career wise they were total opposites. But neither ashamed to promote themselves or their achievements for even greater success. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sadly, the thing they shared most was their ability to fully detach from someone who cared about them. Me<\/em><\/strong>. One without even as much as a goodbye.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Recently I’d been asked by another therapist, about the one that left without a word, \u201cDo you feel a bit. cheated? For her creeping her way into your heart, presenting a fake version of herself that you fell for?\u201d<\/em><\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I didn’t quite know how to respond to her question. Sure, it hurt like hell. Yes, I still miss her. But I also learned about real love. Wasn’t that worth it alone? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

So, I decided to ask Jodika<\/a><\/em><\/strong> ‘How the Hell Should I have Felt<\/em><\/strong>‘. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Jodika<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

“Let me be clear: you don\u2019t attract who you want\u2014you attract who you are,” began Jodika, as she chiseled away at me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

“That woman didn\u2019t \u201cfake\u201d her way into your heart. She showed up as the exact energetic mirror you needed at the time. Whether that was a test, a karmic slap, or a call to wake the hell up\u2014that\u2019s for you to sit with. But make no mistake: something in you resonated with her. Something in you was familiar with the facade. So, the real question is: What part of you was willing to believe it?”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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