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In a Fair Society, Neither Would…<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

…however, we’re living in anything but a fair society. Agnieszka (Agnes) Rdesinska: RTT Hypnotherapist and NLP Coach is back once again to help shed light on the truth.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I hadn’t thought much about ‘givers and takers’<\/em><\/strong> throughout my life, as my grandparents raised me to believe ‘it’s better to give than to receive.’<\/em><\/strong> Yes, I was raised old school and many of their beliefs are instilled in my very fiber. However, during my healing process, I’ve learned much more about life, feelings and expectations than ever before. And it can all be accredited to friend and therapist or is it therapist and friend (giving and taking equally) Agnes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Agnieszka (Agnes) Rdesinska: RTT Hypnotherapist and NLP Coach<\/em><\/strong><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Clinically Speaking, what are Givers and Takers<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Agnes tells me that the simple definition would be a taker takes more than they give, and a giver gives more than they take. “Ideally, a person should be both,” Agnes begins. “We give and we take that\u2019s how healthy relationships work. But to really understand the distinction, we’ll have to dive a bit deeper.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Equally Filled Cups<\/em><\/strong><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

“Have you ever heard of \u201cfilling each other\u2019s cup,”<\/em><\/strong> she asks, without expecting a reply. “It\u2019s the idea that everyone has a \u201ccup\u201d that has to be filled with affection, attention, and anything that makes a person feel valued. When your cup is full, you feel happy, content, and energetic. When it\u2019s empty, you feel stressed, apathetic, anxious, restless, and resentful. Both partners should fill each other\u2019s cup, they should give and take.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Following this metaphor, Agnes said, “a taker is a person whose cup has a hole in it. They need their cup to be constantly refilled and they expect their partner to keep filling their cup every day without doing it back (you can\u2019t pour from an empty cup).” It\u2019s tricky she adds, “because most takers don\u2019t have enough self-reflection to know they\u2019re one. When asked, they\u2019ll say they\u2019re a giver but how can they be a taker if their cup is empty all the time not realizing there\u2019s a hole in their cup they have to fix. It doesn\u2019t mean they\u2019re bad people a hole in a cup is usually there due to trauma or depression.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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