{"id":2169,"date":"2024-03-31T16:00:36","date_gmt":"2024-03-31T20:00:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/rickollie.com\/?p=2169"},"modified":"2025-10-30T09:14:05","modified_gmt":"2025-10-30T13:14:05","slug":"exorcising-your-ghost-because-of-the-trauma-left-behind","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/rickollie.com\/es\/2024\/03\/31\/exorcising-your-ghost-because-of-the-trauma-left-behind\/","title":{"rendered":"Exorcising Your Ghost Because of the Trauma Left Behind"},"content":{"rendered":"

with Agnieszka Rdesinska <\/em><\/strong>\u00a0 \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I use Natalia’s words below of encouragement as I give you this piece on Easter Sunday<\/em><\/strong> with Agnieszka (Agnes) Rdesinska<\/em><\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

“I think being active and pro-active really helps with anything and writing in your case – you are so good!” – Natalia Kessler, on my healing journey.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Agnieszka (Agnes) Rdesinska<\/em><\/strong><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

I’ve got to admit, healing<\/em><\/strong> from the trauma <\/em><\/strong>caused by Casey’s ghosting has become a daunting task. Even today, more than a year later, I question everything from having a victim mindset<\/em><\/strong> to unconditional love.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

This piece is a bit different than the others as I’m using some of Agnes’ own posts on Threads<\/em><\/strong> as topics and one of my own, non-contentious, healing journey feelings.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For those just joining in, Agnes,<\/em><\/strong> is a Rapid Transformational Therapist (RTT)<\/em><\/strong> and a Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) Coach<\/em><\/strong> certified in both. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Victim Mindset<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

“Victim mindset” is fueled by the subconscious association of victimhood with moral superiority and “goodness”.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

“How many stories have had this motive in them? That the “good” characters are oppressed, poor and suffering. We feel sorry for them and thus subconsciously assume they’re virtuous. It’s very hard to get out of a <\/a>victim mindset because keeping up the illusion of victimhood is an effective way to appear “good”. – Agnes<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I’ve begun to question if I had been writing my pain with a victim mindset<\/em><\/strong> because I don’t want to appear as the “poor-poor pitiful me” <\/em><\/strong>type Terri Clark<\/em><\/strong> sings about below.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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