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More Healing<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

March 3, 2024<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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     I’ve been meaning to toss this out here for some time for discussion and have even spoken to Agnieszka (Agnes) Rdesinska, RTT Hypnotherapist and NLP coach<\/strong> about it. If you’ve missed Agnes’ interview with me, you’ll definitely want to catch up. Here’s the link Meet: Agnieszka Rdesinska (rickollie.com)<\/strong><\/a>.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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     Since our initial interview, I’ve been in contact with Agnes a few times for my own support. I’m not ashamed to say I need help, after a cumulation of last year’s personal and health issues nearly broke me. They’re all chronologized here in previous blogs, if you’re interested, as I found no fear in sharing my healing journey and the events which led to them in hopes they’d help someone else as well. A move which Agnes said of me, “You serve as an inspiration, and I hope you recognize the positive impact you make by sharing your pain.” I’m beginning to, thanks to your help!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

     Afraid, yet inquisitive, I brought her the following video from TikTok. One I could feel but couldn’t accept. One I felt flashbacks of my own feelings, but I couldn’t picture or believe her as ‘bad.’ Yet I had made it sound in previous writings as she were, but that too was my healing process.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

     The man sites reasons why men shouldn’t be seeking the types of women he mentions. My first listen through, I halfheartedly agreed as my 1995 marriage was a train wreck from day one, and finally dissolved in 2004, I wasn’t able to feel that emotion again until 2021, as there was no love left in me to give or share anywhere else afterwards because I was hurt so bad.    <\/p>\n\n\n\n

     I led a ‘me’ life from ’04 till ’21 basically heeding the words below, before love once again entered my sensory perception.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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     The more I focused on the man’s words, the more my stomach turned. People can change for the better. Hell, I’m an example of that. If you know me or have chatted with me on social, ‘I Am Me.’ <\/strong>Plain and simple, but I’ve learned from my past. Am I a good man looking for a good woman? Yes, I am. But the definition of ‘good’ <\/strong>in the pretext of a relationship should, I believe, be left to the individual not merely words spouted for likes or ratings. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

     In her own way, my ex was good. Just not for me. We don’t speak, but I’ve never wished ill will upon her, and have four great young adults I am father of because of that connection. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

     As for the woman that ghosted me last February. I wouldn’t have been so connected to her either, if she were ‘bad.’<\/strong> It wasn’t about monetary things and if I can’t help someone that has suffered through a past relationship, what kind of goodness do I hold? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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     What the man lacks to mention, is a simple word every couple and or future couple needs to learn. Communication.<\/strong> That’s the key in my eyes. Don’t pass love by because someone has suffered trauma, or is broke, or has a shopping habit. Work the problem, don’t create another by either missing out on, not loving at all or loving the wrong person. That will cause you more pain than the happiness of trying. Trust me, I learned that the hard way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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